The senselessness that is the knee-jerk reaction that 'stereotypes' are inherently negative and harmful.
I grew up in a world where I learned, very early on, that there were certain types of gay men that were mocked, belittled, insulted and denigrated. I also learned very early on that not only was it a *cough* "gay stereotype" to love Barbra Streisand, but the gays who loved her were deserving of derision.
Like an idiot, I accepted that knowledge without challenging it.
Oh, but then all that changed....
I suppose the question I have now, when people say things like "Why do gay guys like _______?" is actually to reply with "Why doesn't everyone like _______?"
That's what I always find so puzzling - we're asked why "gay guys" like something, and yet for the life of me I cannot wonder why non-gay people don't love it just as much. Likely, they do. They just don't talk about it cuz, you know, people might think they're gay.