Very very honoured to have this post of my being published over at yourtango.com
Please, click the link and check it out!
http://www.yourtango.com/2016290236/what-you-should-never-say-when-someone-comes-out-lgbt
In light of the massacre in Orlando, I think it's a discussion that needs to happen. For too many years I've seen LGBT people who can only "be themselves" when they're away from certain people in their lives, usually family members. This too-often happens even if they've Come Out to them already, they feel a pressure to "not be that gay" to the people whom they've Come Out to.
I hope this post helps non-Queer people realize that we Queer Folk need to be free to discover who we are, with no caveats about "being the same" - because "the same" has been a lie.
